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Why Are You Doing What You’re Doing?

By Dr. Darcy Lord - Tuesday, July 09, 2019
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I love when I take a vacation week. I stop a lot of my “busyness” and I trade it for extra naps, walking, writing, dancing and meditating. Awesome! I remember a particular vacation when a cool thing happened; I felt like I found myself again. Interesting, since I had not even realized I was missing. Does that ever happen to you? Do you ever feel like you are going day by day making it through all the routines of work or home on auto-pilot, and all of a sudden you notice you are hardly even there?

I think it happens even more for people who are not enjoying their usual routine. I enjoy most of my routines. I love the people I get to be home with and I love the people I get to work with. I love what I do for work and I love what I do for play—when I take the time to play. But even though I enjoy many of the routines of my daily life, doing those things on auto-pilot is so much different from doing them consciously, by choice. Auto-pilot mode sucks the life out of us.

I start going on auto-pilot when I feel tired and overdone. It’s my protective mode when I feel fried. And I feel more fried, tired and overdone when I rush around on auto-pilot. It’s one of those nasty downward spirals that adds to stress. While it’s true that a week off from work can help get me back, I don’t have to wait for vacations to remember to be present, and therefore to be more fulfilled and happy, both at home and at work. Neither do you! So here is a provocation to help bring relief and fullness back to your days when you may need it. Throughout the week ask yourself why you are doing whatever you are doing. If the first answer is “To get done,” or “Because I have to,” then ask again and again until you feel your heart move back into the answer.

Here is an example when I was writing one of my weekly “Blurbs.”

“Why am I doing this?”

“Because I write these on Tuesdays.”

“Why do I do that?”

“Because that’s the day I send it out to people.”

“Why are you doing that?”

“Because it is my highest intention and great hope that it will uplift or benefit someone in some way. And because I always feel happy and proud of myself when I complete one.”

Ah, yes—that is why. You can do the same thing with anything you are working on whether personal or professional simply by asking until once again you feel the real reason, the primary reason, the heartfelt reason why you are doing it all anyway.

“Why do I do these things that sometimes feel like ‘too much’?”

“Because I love being the best mom I can be.”

“Because I feel great when my house is clean and beautiful.”

“Because I am happy when there are wonderful groceries and healthy dinners to eat.”

“Because I really like doing my job well.”

“Because it feels awesome to have a strong body.”

“Because I love to feel my spiritual connection.”

“Because it rocks to get paid for doing my work.”

“Because I feel proud of providing for my family.”

“Because I love helping people.”

The list can go on and on. When you bring your heart back into why you actually do what you do—then simplicity, relief, fullness, love and well-being move into and through your day to day routines. That for me is worth the effort!



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Dr. Darcy Lord received her Ph.D. from The Ohio State University in Somatic Education which addresses the mind-body-spirit connection. She has been a speaker, trainer, and consultant for over twenty-five years, guiding groups and individuals toward their own empowerment and well-being. Book Darcy Today!